Over the years, stepfamily ministry and biblically-based resources for stepfamilies have been few and far in between. The need is tremendous, and our society is growing in what now seems like the new traditional family, blended families. As a ministry, it is our mission to break the cycle of divorce, equip marriages, and unite blended families with the truth of God’s word. Our vision is that every blended family would have a local church home where each member of the family can receive support and equipping, both spiritually and physically.
This has been a long-time passion project for us and, while not an easy journey, very intentional. A large portion of the people we come in contact within day-to-day life have been through a divorce and/or are remarried and working on blending their family. For some, that may not mean a whole lot, but those of us who know what blending a family involves know that there are families everywhere struggling to find peace and unity in their homes. The process of two groups of people with different habits, personalities, expectations, communication methods, baggage, hurts, and histories trying to get on the same page and learn to love one another is full of hurdles that traditional families do not experience. All of that, on top of navigating co-parenting, custody agreements, and working to give children a sense of normalcy as they live two separate lives between their parents’ homes, blended family life often feels overwhelming in ways that, to the people who experience it, seem impossible for other people to understand. These families are in need of community, support and encouragement, and resources. We saw the need; we felt it and ventured where few have dared to go.
We believe that blended family ministry is the greatest untapped opportunity for the church. We believe this is a much-needed resource for a demographic that is so often overlooked by the church, we want to come alongside pastors and ministry leaders to share insight and offer a resource to help equip them as they steward the blended families in their congregations.
Blended families are becoming more and more common, but that doesn’t make them any less complicated. The question they often find themselves asking is, “how and where does one even start to look for resources and community for families like ours?” We’ve been there, we understand, and that is our heart behind writing the book, “Blended & Redeemed, The Go-To Field Guide for the Modern Stepfamily.” We have poured our hearts into bringing firsthand knowledge, tools, and resources to millions of blended families around the world with this book. Whether you are a stepparent, a co-parent, a pastor, a ministry leader, a stepchild, or you know a blended family, and you are looking for resources, this book and its companion guides will equip you to navigate every different season, trial, and joy of blended family life, or help you support someone who is living blended.
In partnership with XO Publishing, a division of XO Marriage, we’ve written the much-anticipated guide for couples and families navigating the difficult waters of transitioning two families into one. From encouraging couples that God is refining them through these difficult times to shedding light on the realities of litigation, our goal is to equip those in need with the tools and practices we have learned through our own experience and faith.
In a convictional foreword, Jimmy Evans, founder and President of XO Marriage, writes, “They know from personal experience what couples must go through to bring two lives and two families together, and they have shown that, with God’s help, blended families can overcome and thrive… In Blended and Redeemed, Scott and Vanessa chart a path for remarried couples around the hazards that can often sidetrack blended families.” Page after page is written with truly convicted hearts for helping others who are living this lifestyle. This highly anticipated release is scheduled for September 13, 2022, but you can pre-order your copy on Amazon TODAY!
We pray that this resource will be a blessing to you and your family, and to pastors, ministry leaders, and their church members.
About Us: Scott Martindale is a Licensed Professional Counselor, and for more than 15 years he has helped couples, marriages, and families on their journey through life’s challenges. Vanessa is a registered nurse, and she is pursuing a master’s degree in Marriage and Family Therapy at The King’s University. Scott and Vanessa reside in the Dallas-Fort Worth Metroplex with their sons.
Scott and Vanessa Martindale
Founders of Blended Kingdom Families